For All Of Us UN-Beauty Queens
18 Nov 2011 2 Comments
Demi and Ashton.
Tiger and Elin.
Sandra and Jesse.
That stupid Weiner guy and his wife.
Bill and Hillary.
For every woman – and I include myself, here – that has ever felt they weren’t pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, sexy enough, thin enough, etc. to keep a man happy and hanging around in a one to one relationship, I offer you the examples above.
It’s not about how you look, how big your, um, wallet or brain is, or how well your lingerie fits. It’s about the mindset that takes men to that place that allows them to compartmentalize their one to one relationships and somehow justify a one to many. I don’t find any joy or satisfaction in the difficult situations that these couples have been through, but I do find a little bit of validation.
If it can happen to them with their looks, bodies, bank accounts or IQs, it can happen to anyone.
That’s absolutely not to say that we as women don’t have responsibility for keeping relationships on track, for carrying more than our share of the burden of making it work sometimes, for shutting the hell up and resisting the urge to talk everything to DEATH (my particular foible). We certainly do. But we can also take some pathetic comfort in the fact that even the most beautiful, sexy, wealthy, smart women among us aren’t enough to keep a man who is hell bent on getting some strange from doing it.
I wonder if this happens in lesbian relationships? I know it happens with gay men-I have gay friends that I’ve seen suffer because of infidelity in committed relationships.
For the love of gawd – it’s 2011. If you don’t want to be married and monogamous, DON’T BE MARRIED. If you can’t be committed and monogamous, DON’T BE COMMITTED.
Nov 19, 2011 @ 22:13:41
Women cheat too. You just don’t hear about it as much for some reason. Weird double-standard stuff I guess. OR we (women) are just a LOT more vocal about it when we’re the one wronged. LoL
Nov 20, 2011 @ 23:10:14
Cheating happens everywhere and to all kinds of marriages for a myriad of reasons. But, when asked….the reason almost always has something to do with feeling far away from your spouse mentally, physically or both.
As hard as it is to stay connected at times, you just have to do it. Listen. Ask questions. Stay involved with each other. It is the only way to win at marriage.